Feminism is Not Just About You.
In the past few months, I find myself continually discussing the idea of equality, and what it means to be feminist. As an upper middle class white woman, I hear constantly this idea of women “playing the victim” or creating a problem and sense of inferiority where none exists. This on the whole is a disheartening and frustrating view to hear, but it becomes more so as I realize that the only women who could really possibly believe this are other women like myself of extreme privilege.
I have to say to these women, you’re right. I personally do not face adversity every day because of my gender. I have surrounded myself with people and organizations that empower women and see me as an equal, and more, as an individual. I have grown up with two parents that have always fully and completely reinforced an idea of equality and individual strength between my brothers and me. I not only had the opportunity to go to college, but the ability and freedom to choose which college I wanted to attend. I, of course, have had to deal with street harassers and the occasional man or teenage boy that makes sexist and demeaning jokes, or calls me “honey” or “baby doll”. In truth, I have lead an incredibly and wonderfully privileged life. But this isn’t about me.